Victims’ families are victims too
Sharada Jayaram
Counselling Contributor
And the statistics have gone up by one with fifty-year-old housewife Kausalya, who was kidnapped from her residence by four men, in the presence of the three men her life revolved around, her husband and her two sons both in their twenties.
The trauma Kausalya is going through at this point undoubtedly is huge. She is possibly upset by the lack of reaction from her husband and sons; being adult men and being in this country for years could they not come to the defence of the helpless one-month new entrant to the Kingdom, wife and mother, in their very own home? She has faced the trauma alone literally, alone, from the start.
Victims’ families are victims too
Sharada Jayaram
Counselling Contributor
And the statistics have gone up by one with fifty-year-old housewife Kausalya, who was kidnapped from her residence by four men, in the presence of the three men her life revolved around, her husband and her two sons both in their twenties.
The trauma Kausalya is going through at this point undoubtedly is huge. She is possibly upset by the lack of reaction from her husband and sons; being adult men and being in this country for years could they not come to the defence of the helpless one-month new entrant to the Kingdom, wife and mother, in their very own home? She has faced the trauma alone literally, alone, from the start.
Medical reports say Kausalya is in depression, and is emotionally and psychologically traumatised. Doubtless, Kausalya will need a number of counselling sessions to deal with the trauma she has gone through and resultant scarring of her emotions and her psyche.
Family support is a must for her, but her husband and sons will each have to be dealt with individually to start with; they must certainly suffer guilt, harsh pangs, especially each time they take a look at the lady in her current broken state. Perhaps they were in shock and did not have the presence of mind either to stop the goings-on on that fateful night.
And then there are the neighbours, or were they there? Being in a foreign land and concerned about their jobs which may come under question for getting involved in a ‘police case’ which has drawn the glare of the media, they chose the easy, and arguably cowardly option to sit behind the closed doors and security their homes.
Yes, they may have feared the consequences of involvement in a foreign country where expats all suffer from different levels of insecurity and inferiority.
The baseline is that Kausalya has been deeply traumatised and is in urgent need of counselling sessions from a professionally trained counsellor to help her come to terms with the actual trauma, accompanied with guilt, emotional and psychological hurt, strong urge to commit suicide and being unable to face her world, the world.
On a parallel, awareness campaigns of how such situations should be handled irrespective of gender, should be made mandatory before people get into regular employment to live overseas.
Article from: Bahrain Tribune Newspaper- www.BahrainTribune.com